Desperation & Desire
While desperation and desire would appear to be on opposite ends of the spectrum, what I’ve found in my coaching experience is that they often are very close neighbors. A goal that starts out as a desire can turn to desperation over time, and the energy shift between the two is immense.
How Do Desperation and Desire Differ?
Desire can drive you to move forward with a positive energy that can help you get through almost anything. Desperation, on the other hand, is like a black hole, and no matter how much energy you put into something, you always seem to be sucked into a vast emptiness.
Desire comes from and can lead to prosperity – it’s the thinking behind it that success is out there for you, and you’re ready to do what it takes to make it happen.
Desperation comes from and creates poverty – the thought that everything is a struggle and there’s nothing but lack.
We can also talk about want vs. need, where desire is going after what you WANT, and desperation is fighting for what you NEED. We often use those words interchangeably, but there is a big distinction. WANT implies choice, where as NEED makes people feel like there is no choice.
Which Would You Choose?
Whether it feels like it or not, we always have choice.
I know most people would choose desire over desperation, but look at your situation and see if that’s really the path you’re taking.
The other thing to look at is whether you’re going after what you want or avoiding what you don’t want. Most people can tell you exactly what they don’t want in their life – usually because it’s exactly what they already have – much better than they can tell you what they do want. It’s very similar to the difference between desire & desperation.
Where Does Desperation Come From?
If you are operating out of desperation, there is hope. Desperation often comes from limiting beliefs we’ve created along the way.
You could have a desire to retire at age 50 with 5 million in the bank, but somewhere in your mind you hear “You can’t do that” or maybe you question whether you really deserve it. These thoughts send you over to the desperation side, as you sabotage yourself from getting what it is you want.
Those thoughts were created while you were growing up, and they need to be removed in order to get back to the desire that will drive you to do whatever it takes.
What Will It Take?
It takes effort, it takes time, and it takes a commitment to make a change. If you’re not where you want to be in life, continuing on the current path is going to keep you where you are – or possibly even circle you back to where you were. It will not get you where you want to go.
You are either 100% committed, or you are 0% committed – because anything less is not going to get you where you want to go.
In order to do things you’ve never done or get things you’ve never had, you have to do something different.
It may not be easy, but it will be worth it. Your life is worth anything you have to go through to make it what you want it to be.
Life Is Not A Lottery Ticket…
You don’t just one day spend a few dollars and a little bit of time to create the life you want. You’ve got to be willing to put in effort.
The path of least effort leads to the path of least results. And the amount of effort invested is a direct correlation to the amount of results you’ll achieve as well – how long a change can last. If you continue to put in the effort, you’ll continue to reap the rewards.
But don’t focus so much on the effort that you sacrifice the glory. It will take time, money and effort – but you are worth it! Focus on what you desire. You can work at it and through it until you’re living authentically, which is so much better than the alternative – settling for a life of less.
You can’t go back and change anything, but you can go forward and change everything! You only get one shot. Do you want to live with regret?
You already have the winning ticket – it’s within you…are you ready to let it shine?
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