Boundaries are created unconsciously by you to keep you safe. They are created for protection, with ingredients you determine. 

 

 

Two of the biggest ingredients are values & beliefs. Values are what’s important to you, while beliefs are what you think is true about yourself & the world around you. 

 

Our boundaries are created naturally around our values & beliefs in order to protect them. And each of us has our own values & beliefs, which creates our own unique “comfort zone.”

 

 

 

The main message behind boundaries is you’re not supposed to cross the line or get out of your comfort zone. Why? We think bad stuff happens there, which makes us uncomfortable. Thus, we tend to stay within our boundaries.

 

We generate internal permissions and behaviors relating to boundaries, such as our definitions of pain/pleasure, right/wrong, and good/bad. Our current & past life experiences determine how we use these labels.

 

 

If we look at our behaviors, we can see where we’ve created boundaries. For example, if you are afraid of failing, you might let that fear keep you inside a boundary. However, that fear is only a concept, label, a judgment that we put on our own results.

 

One distinguishing characteristic between successful & unsuccessful people is how they define failure. Nothing is failure until you decide it is. The same event can be defined differently. A ‘no’ to your sales offer can be a failure, or it can be fuel, inspiration. So I suggest you challenge your definition of failure (or pain or rejection, or …).

 

Challenge the head talk or resistance that comes up when you think of failure. Ask yourself, what would happen next?

 

If you offered someone a product or an opportunity and they declined, what would happen next? Would they yell at you? Hit you? Laugh? Or would they just walk away?   

 

What you’ll find is that the fear is not real. Then you can uncover the real fear – your own internal judgments. And that’s empowering because it’s the only thing you can do anything about anyway! If the fear really is other people’s judgments, you’ll always be a victim.

 

 

Things created by us can be moved or removed; including your internal judgments. In order to move or remove them, you must embrace them first. Now, that does not mean enjoying, agreeing or coping with, but acknowledging them.

 

Acknowledge what makes up your boundaries – which is your values & beliefs. Embrace your values - what is truly important to you - not what we’re programmed to believe is supposed to be important to us – cars, money, titles, etc. What’s truly important to you has always been important to you. 

 

When it comes to beliefs, you have to change ones that don’t serve you. You have to understand what your beliefs are first in order to change them, so embrace them. That’s such an important piece and it might take further action, like private coaching or attending a live seminar on how to Stop the Sabotage! ;-) ~ SS